5 Ways My Dad Fathered Me To Love Jesus--#1

1.He was home for dinner, every night.

I know my dad worked a lot when I was young. He started two different businesses and I am told he worked 60+ hours a week. He often was awake at 5 in the morning to start his day and would work until late in the evening. Even in all this, my father always prioritized spending time with my sister and me. He was always home for dinner. I have vivid memories of him coming home every night (the highlight of our day!) and eating dinner with us. After dinner, he’d spend time wrestling, playing, getting us ready for bed, read us stories, pray with us…and then the best part—tucked us in at night.

Now that I’m a parent, this time that we had with my dad was probably an hour and a half, maybe two hours. I think he would be home by 6 and we would be in bed between 7:30 and 8:00. Sometimes, he had to go back to work or finish work. Thinking about it, an hour-two hours a day isn’t really a lot of time for a father to spend with his children, especially if you think about how much time children spend with teachers, friends, etc. But even though I may have spent less time with my father then with other influences in my life, my father was able to be the most influential voice in my life because of the consistency and complete attention he gave us daily.

My dad never went "out with the guys", hung out at bars to watch sports, met friends for drinks/cigars during those times that he could be home with us (maybe he occasionally did it after we went to bed). Any men’s ministry activities he was a part of (and he was always involved other men’s lives) took place on Saturday mornings or before work. He took us everywhere he went on the weekends and whatever he was doing, we went along. If it was ministry, we went. If it was spending time with friends, we were there too. If it was a bible study, we could bring a backpack of quiet toys to play with at his feet while he participated or led it. Even times he had to work at his office on weekends, he’d bring sleeping bags, movies, and lunch and we’d get to “camp out” under his desk while he finished things up.

This wasn’t just when I was older, but I know he started this when I was very young. I know he made time with us a priority long before my memories were capable of remembering. I know this time he spent was the basis for which I was able to trust him so much as I got older and which opened the doors for him to shepherd me throughout my childhood.

Next post: 2: He initiated reading scripture, asking spiritual questions, and holding me accountable

The Abortion Debate

Check out Vocab's debate/discussion on abortion. He is in the middle of a series of thought provoking posts. Jim Lippard, a very intelligent pro-abortionist, is debating Vocab's points on his blog. The diolouge back and forth is great!

Adopted for Life Book Discussion: Adoption, Jesus, and You

“As we become more attuned to the gospel, we’ll have more of a burden for orphans. As we become more adoption-friendly, we’ll be better able to understand the gospel.”

The opening chapter introduces us to some great ideas about the interconnectedness of God’s adoption of us and how that is reflected in our adoption of children. Russel Moore begins to tell us about his own journey of preaching and thinking about the “theology” of adoption without ever thinking about how that relates to earthly adoption of orphans. He does a great job of showing how we cannot appreciate one fully without the other.

Please take a minute to comment on one of the following questions:

“Without the theological aspect, the emphasis on adoption too easily is seen as mere charity. Without the missional aspect, the doctrine of adoption is too easily seen as mere metaphor.” (p.18)

1. What do you think that statement means? How have you seen this to be true in your own life?

2. When thinking about God’s adoption of us, why is it important for us to understand it beyond “mere metaphor”?

3. How does interlinking the two help us see adoption of orphans as more then just charity or a good deed?

book discussion starting this week!

We are starting the "Adopted for Life" book study this week! I will be posting an overview of each chapter on Friday or Saturdays with questions for us to discuss/think about. This week, lets read chapters 1 and 2...I'll look forward to hearing your thoughts this weekend!

Preaching vs. Worship

Jeff Purswell does a great job of explaining why preaching is essential to worship:

Throughout salvation history, all the way into the new covenant, God’s Word is at the center of worship. The early church devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and every church was nourished on God’s Word, all the way down to the last chapter of the last book that Paul wrote, where he tells Timothy to preach the Word “in season and out of season” (2 Timothy 4:2).

Why? Why so much preaching? Why all this talking? Because the primary way we encounter God in worship is through the preaching of the Word of God.

Think about it this way. Normally, in what we call “worship,” we spend significant time—perhaps the whole time—addressing God, singing to him, praising him, extolling him, praying to him. Wonderful! But in preaching we are no longer addressing God; he is addressing us. Nothing is more important than this moment. And this is why the most important worship leader in your church is your pastor.

That really gets to the heart of preaching. The Bible is not simply a book that we talk about. When God’s Word is faithfully preached, God is addressing us. God is speaking. We hear not merely a man’s voice. We hear the voice of God.

Read the entire post here.

HT: Pure Church

Orphan Sunday this week at Roosevelt!

November 8th is Orphan Sunday and I am VERY excited about some things that will be happening at Roosevelt this weekend!

1) We will be having a ministry spotlight talking about foster parenting/adoption with resources available for families who would like to further consider/pray about becoming foster or adoptive parents.

2) Vocab & Nicole will be teaching a RU class called, "A Biblical View on Adoption" after service (lunch will be provided). You don't want to miss it!

3) We will be launching a new Roosevelt book study. We have 6 copies of "Adopted for Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families & Churches" by Russel Moore. I will be commenting/ opening up for discussing a chapter each week on my blog. I hope to have at least 6 people join me on Sunday in reading/discussing this book. (If you don't attend Roosevelt and would like to join the study, order the book now--we will be starting next week.)

**even if you think you will never foster or adopt, this book is well worth reading. 1) to support our families in the church who do and 2) to have a deeper appreciation of God's adoption of you!

Things you should never say to a family who has adopted children #7 & #8

7.Racial Stereotypes

Please avoid stating any racial stereotypes you may have about my children or any other child. I have friends who have fostered or adopted children from many other races (Hispanic, Caucasian, etc) and all of them have stories of things people have said that would (hopefully) make your mouth drop open. Just apply the “if-you-wouldn’t-say-it-to-an-adult” rule…if you wouldn’t say something to my husband about black people, don’t say it to me about my kids.

The one I hear most often has to do with the assumption that black or Hispanic families are more likely to have their children in foster care (under that statement lies an assumption that black/Hispanic families are worse parents then Caucasian families). The fact is a majority of the children who enter the system in Arizona are Caucasian; however, most foster and adoptive families will only take white kids/won’t take minorities—that is why there are so many minority children waiting for adoption.

8.“Is it because of the drugs?”

I haven’t had this said to me, but several of my friends have. When their toddler is running all over the place or doing something that seems a little different then the “average” child, sometimes well meaning people ask if it is because the child was exposed to drugs in the womb. It would be the same as me walking up to you during your 2-year old's screaming tantrum and saying, “your child is so abnormal, what on earth happened to them that made them so difficult?” Any parent would be taken aback to that statement.

Things you should never say to a family who has adopted children #5 & #6

5. You’re a saint. I could never go through the pain of a child returning to the birth family or hearing their stories of abuse.

Foster parents aren't saint, I promise. When people allude to the fact that there is something “tough” about foster parents for being able to “handle” the stories of abuse, it just makes me think that they don’t have any close friends who are foster parents. The kids who don’t get to be adopted, especially when they are returning to unsafe homes—breaks the hearts of foster parents. We aren’t tough. It rips our hearts out, but the pain of a grown, healthy adult who fosters is nothing compared to an abused child having no where to live and no where to be safe. This statement says that it is better to protect your own heart and life from pain then to alleviate the pain and suffering of an innocent, abused child. This is not the gospel we have been called to and I'm sure if we each really thought about it, would admit its better to risk our own pain then to let an abused child have no home to live in.

6. God’s given you a special call

Okay, this is my least favorite statement. I wasn’t “called” to adopt or foster children any more or less then every other Christian I know. Again, read above verses…God's word is filled with a command to care for orphans and the poor and the New Testament gives a beautiful example of God adopting us into his family--we are all called to care for the orphans. There are exceptions, if you have marital issues that need to be worked on, don’t want any children, or have legitimate reasons for not being able to, then that is fine. No one should do it out of guilt or obligation. But healthy, loving families who like children should be actively involved in supporting adoptions and fostering.

There are at least 5 churches that have more members in them then Arizona has kids in the foster system waiting for placement. We have no excuse. If we believe in caring for life and abortions ending, then it makes sense to start with caring for the orphans we have already.

Instead of thinking of these families who adopt as “selfless” and “special”—just think of them as normal. If couples don’t have to pray to make sure God wanted them to get pregnant in the first place…then why do couples need to be “called” to adopt? I never hear Christians say, “God called me to get pregnant.” Too often we think/pray for God to “open the door” for us if he wants us to adopt. More of us should pray, “God, I know you’ve called us to care for the orphans and it would be an honor to do this! Please let me be one who gets to serve in such a great way! I’m going to start taking action toward this and if you don’t want it to happen, close the door.”

Things you should never say to a family who has adopted children #3 & #4

3. Do they have the same fathers? or Are they siblings?

There are certain close friends (especially those who understand and support adoption) that I may chose to discuss this with. However, this is can be an inappropriate question to ask a family for several reasons.

1. If Vermon and I have adopted them—then OF COURSE they have the same mother and father.

2. This question again goes back to DNA and really doesn’t matter—if they really are biologically half siblings, does that make any difference since they were raised together from birth? Do you think their little minds process that they are “half siblings?” Of course not! In fact, Niko and Mya have a “biological” 2 year old brother and whenever I say that this little boy is their brother Niko quickly corrects me that he is their cousin. He always tells me, “Mom, his parents are my auntie and uncle—he can’t be my brother!”

3. The answer very well may give you a bad opinion of the birth mother and my children may not want you to know the answer to that. Their life story belongs to them and how they chose to share it will be up to each one individually. Would you randomly ask a single mom if her three children all have the same father? If you wouldn’t ask an adult a question about their life because it might be embarrassing or hurtful for them, then it probably isn’t an appropriate question to ask about my children (since they will be adults too at some point).

4.“You know what I mean”

Whenever someone says some of the above things to me and I explain to someone that Niko and Mya are children of my own and that I would have been happy only adopting…this is always the response I get.

My answer to this statement is almost always, “no, I don’t know what you mean.” A better way to respond is, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have worded it that way." :)

Things you should never say to a family who has adopted children, #1 & #2

I am new to being a parent, but in the short time there have already been many, many things said to Vermon and I about our children that feel very uncomfortable. I know everyone has the best intentions and I don’t believe anyone would say these things to be intentionally hurtful; however, in a culture where adoption is not common, sometimes it helps to be informed.

Before I start, here are some verses that would be helpful to read to understand where I am coming from:

God’s adoption of us: Romans 8:15, Romans 8:23, Galatians 4:5, Ephesians 1:5
God’s heart for orphans: James 1:27, Deut. 10:17-22, Psalms 10:14, Zec. 7:10, Proverbs 31:8-9 (there are easily 40 other verses I could list about the orphans (fatherless), poor/needy—but this is a good starting point)

My next few posts will just be a list of questions and words to remove from your vocabulary when talking about adoption.

Things You Should Never Say To a Family With Adopted Children:

1.Are you going to have children of your own?

This is perhaps one of the most offensive things I hear…and I hear it on a weekly basis (now the popular one is: “You must be excited to be having a child of your own.”) Any sentence with “children of your own” included in it (referring to biological children) is incredibly offensive and hurtful. Adopted children are children of our own—there is no difference between an adopted and biological child for parents who adopt. If you have never adopted and cannot understand loving a child as much because they don’t have your DNA—please, keep those thoughts to yourself. This statement implies that biological children belong to me more than my adopted child. This is ludicrous! How can Mya and Niko, the loves of my life, be anything less then my children? Are you less of God’s child because you are adopted by him? Read some of the above verses for a short overview on how the Bible beautifully talks about Christians being “adopted by God.” If God can see me as a “child of his own” then you should be able to see my children as “my own.”

2.Are you infertile?

There are many things wrong with this question. Two of those things are:

First, the question implies that the only reason you would adopt is because you cannot get pregnant. It makes adoption seem like a second-rate version of having children. Several of my friends, including Vermon and I, wanted to adopt long before we even met our spouses and knew if fertility was an issue or not. It is something we felt passionately about and Vermon & I chose to do it before getting pregnant—or even instead of getting pregnant. Friends of mine have chosen never to get pregnant so that they can adopt as many children as possible. I hate when people tell me that I got pregnant because “God is blessing you for adopting.” The blessing of adopting was Niko and Mya entering our life. Getting pregnant was not a reward for adopting. Of course, this baby I am carrying is a blessing—but it isn’t tied to adoption. No one would say, “oh, God gave you Niko and Mya because you decided to get pregnant and give birth! How great!” Unless you would make one statement, don’t make the other.

If you make the mistake of asking this question and get the above response, PLEASE DO NOT try to convince the person to change their minds. The person will instantly start thinking of how ignorant you are and will be very hurt or angry. They haven’t made this decision lightly, so nothing you can say will change their minds. I’ve heard terrible reasons for needing to get pregnant like: (1) don’t you want to see what a kid looks like that you create? Or 2) you can’t possibly understand how special that attachment is between mother and child until you’ve carried them in you and delivered them (I could write about why those are ridiculous statements, but to keep this from getting to long—I’ll just let you ask me personally)

Secondly, I have friends who tried for years to get pregnant and couldn’t—they really don’t like sharing this information with everyone. For some couples this is a private and painful issue and they don’t want to share it with everyone. Also, once they have adopted, many of them regret not doing it sooner, wishing they would have realized that a child is a child—regardless of DNA. Any implication that their now adopted child was a “second choice” to biological children is hurtful.

The Normal Christian Life, part 4

So how then should we live?

We aren’t given a “pass” during different seasons of life to forsake our first love and make idols of our business, marriage, children, or job. This doesn’t mean we need to be legalistic and wake up with a check list of “things to do for God” each morning, but it does mean that whenever our relationship with Christ is not the most important thing in our life—there is sin and we desperately need to get back in alignment with our Lord. So, if there are no biblical categories for “on fire” Christians, but just one way that we are each called to live, then what is the “normal” Christian life?
Here is a short list…obviously this can be expanded and scripture has so much to say about each one. This also isn’t a check list that you “must do” out of legalism or obligation, but more of a way to examine your heart and test yourself.

1)We are called to be living sacrifices.—Romans 12:1-3
Every single one of us is called to be a living sacrifice to God. What an extreme and stark call this is in relation to how we are to live our lives. We are to see all of ourselves, our families, our time, our bodies, our minds, our affections as a sacrifice unto God. It is our “spiritual worship” (and this leads us to having renewed and transformed minds…which helps us discern the will of God!)

2)We are called to deny ourselves—Mark 8:34

3)We are called to be slaves of Christ—1 Corinthians 7:22

4)We are no longer enslaved by sin—Romans 8:8-11

5)We are called to follow in the steps of Christ—1 Peter 2:21

6)We are called to be servants –Galatians 5:13

7)We are called children of God…Romans 8:10-16, Galatians 4:1-7. Our adoption by God changes our entire identity. We have all the rights of sons of God! We are to have a close, intimate relationship with God—relating to him as a loving and good father!

8)We are called to bear fruit—Matthew 12:33

9)We are called to love our brothers/sisters –1 John 4:7-12

How Calvinist Simeon Related to Wesley

This is a GREAT post by John Piper from the Desiring God Blog. He shows one of the most loving, humble conversations I have ever read between a Calvinist and an Armenian. It is so encouraging to think about how the gospel can unit the church in every way, even when theology differs.

Read the post here

The Normal Christian Life, part 3

2. The hot and cold vs. lukewarm Christian

“I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth. For you say, I am rich, I have prospered, and I need nothing, not realizing that you are wretched, pitiable, poor, blind, and naked…” Revelation 3:15-17

Dr. Carson preached a sermon in which he discussed archeological evidence from Laodicea that brought such new and wonderful insight into this passage for me. The town directly north of Laodicea was known for having hot springs that produced fresh, hot water and the town directly south of Laodicea was known for having delicious, cold water. Laodicean’s water source came from the Lycus River, which was muddy and undrinkable—so the town had aqueducts that brought water from the hot springs five miles away. This produced lukewarm, disgusting water. There are even extra-biblical historical writings (see Josephus) where Alexander the Great wrote a letter to a friend mocking how how disgusting the water tasted in Laodicea.

Too often, Christians explain this passage to mean that there are three options when it comes to the Christian life: 1) be hot (meaning committed/on fire) 2) be cold (meaning distant/uncommitted) or 3) be lukewarm. We often describe the first two as acceptable to God and the third as unacceptable. This is not what was being said to the Laodicean church. What was being said was: I wish that you were either hot or cold (or useful for drink), but since you are not, I will spew you out of my mouth. There are not 3 options, but 2 options. This passage is not a pass to be a “cold” or distant believer for a season of life. This passage is not a statement that within the church you will find three types of believers and it is okay for some of us to be “cold” while those special leaders can be “hot/on fire.” This passage is a warning that you and your church are to be useful to the kingdom of God.

If we find ourselves living lukewarm lives, then we need to seek the Lord to make us “hot/cold.” The rest of this passage in revelation continues and says:

“…I counsel you to buy from me gold refined by fire, so that you may be rich, and white garments so that you may clothe yourself and the shame of your nakedness may not be seen, and salve to anoint your eyes, so that you may see. Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent.”

The Normal Christian Life, part 2

Where do we see differences in how Christians are referred to in Scripture? What does this mean for us as believers?

1. The baby/mature believer

I have heard this phrase used countless times as an excuse for why some Christians are just not “ready” for ministry, or need to be in a place where they hear “shallow” sermons, or don’t study their Bibles, or continue to treat their families and others in ungodly ways. But this implies that there are two types of Christians, instead of one type of “normal” Christian. A “normal” Christian is “born” as an infant and instantly seeks the nourishment needed to steadily grow up (funny how brand new believers / “infants” are often deeply hungry for spiritual truth and changed lives vs. old Christians claiming to still be “babes in Christ”).

Scripture compares believers as baby Christian, needing spiritual milk and full grown, mature believers, able to eat “meat”. In 1 Peter 2:1-5, Peter uses the analogy not to indicate that they are immature in their faith, but that they are to long for the word of God. He tells his audience that they are to long and crave for pure spiritual milk, “like newborn infants”…but it does not end there. He tells them to crave it “so that by it you may grow up into salvation—if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.”

The other places in scripture do not look highly on those in need of “milk.” The idea of a baby believer is not a pass for someone to be this way their entire life. If you were to see a full grown man breast feeding, you would be very concerned…that is what scripture compares spiritual immaturity to. In Hebrews 5:11-14, the author calls those breastfeeding adults “dull of hering” “unskilled in righteousness” a “child”. If we meet someone who has been a believer for years and they still act and live as though they are infants, then we should question if they are truly in Christ (as well as examine ourselves if we have been using that excuse for a long time). This is not judgmental, Paul does it himself. In 1 Cor 3: 1-3 Paul actually tells the Corinthians that he can’t even address them as spiritual people, but needs to address them as unbelievers (people of the flesh) since they are still not ready for “solid food.” Paul questions if the Corinthians ever really heard the gospel because they had been entrusted with such great truth, yet were still living in a way that was not honoring and pleasing to God. Just like in nature, no where in scripture is there the idea that it is “okay” to be a five-year old infant. As we “grow older” in our faith, the “normal” Christian is called to also grow deeper (and up) in their understanding of the word of God, in loving others, in caring for others, in theology, etc. A “mature” believer should not be an exception, but expected.

“And he gave the apostles, the prophets the evangelists, the pastors and teachers to equip the saints for the work of the ministry, to building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the son of God, to mature manhood, to the measures of the same stature of the fullness of Christ, so that we may no longer be children tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning by craftiness in deceitful schemes…” Ephesians 4:11-16

The Normal Christian Life, part 1

I read a book in my late teens called “The Normal Christian Life” by Watchman Nee and it shaped much of my understanding of Christianity. Honestly, I don’t remember a lot of the book now and really should re-read it; however, the title sums up the most important idea of the book. The theme over and over was that there are no “levels” of Christianity. Too often, we explain the Christian walk like there is a ladder—we start on a rung very far away from God and then we climb up it as we “mature” getting “closer and closer” to God. Pastors and missionaries are called to a “higher” standard of Christianity then the rest of us “normal Christians.” There are Christians who are “on fire” and committed and Christians who are just not in a place to be involved in ministry.

But when we look at scripture, we do not see these levels of Christianity. There is one type of life that each of us are called to live and that is the “normal Christian life.” Pastors are not called to a higher standard then someone who has been a believer for a few months or ten years. We are all called to the same standard.

Over my next few posts, I will look at the places in the Bible where we do see Christians referred to in different ways (baby vs. mature, etc.) and what those passages are saying about Christian living. I will also post what I think scripture defines the “normal Christian life” as.

3 Ways to Benefit From "Boring" Passages

I often hear that it is very challenging to read through the Old Testament because there are parts that can be "boring." Here is a great post from Desiring God's blog about how to benefit from these passages that are sometimes difficult to read.

http://www.desiringgod.org/Blog/1997_3_ways_to_benefit_from_boring_passages/

The Joys of Disciplining Children

I really enjoy disciplining my children. I always thought that would be the worst part of parenting; however, I have quickly learned that it is a great privilege.

Obviously, I enjoy my children so much more when they are obedient, kind, and pleasurable to be around. I would take that over their disobedience, acting out, complete defiance, screaming, yelling, and crying any day. On the other hand, I find myself thankful every time I have a chance to discipline my children. I am thankful because it provides and endless amount of opportunities to bond, deepen our attachment, and most of all—teach them how to live and think in this world.

1) Children are born with a desire to follow every wish and desire that they have—which means their defiance or acting out is not a direct assault on who I am as a person. My children were born with every fiber in their body aching to meet their own desires and needs above anything else in this world. To treat my children as though, left to their own will, they should be anything but completely sinful is to act as though they are better then the gospel itself. When I have an opportunity to discipline them, I have a chance to teach them that they cannot follow their way and must submit to God’s way. Their disobedience is a wonderful opportunity to explain grace, mercy, justice…and most of all—the gospel. I’ve had such wonderful conversations with the kids during these “time out” talks.

2) I get to teach my children how to be adults. I often ask Niko to think about what would happen if he were an adult and made the same choice he just made…he often is able to describe the type of person he would grow up to be. He hit Mya out of anger once. I sat Niko down and asked him, “Do you see anyone in our family hit anyone else?” “No” he responds. “What would happen if you grew up and hit your friend, wife, or kid because you were angry?” Niko’s eyes got very wide and he seemed scared as he described that he would grow up to be a “bad guy” that hurt others. He hasn’t hit anyone since.

3) The price tag is much smaller when they are under my care. If my child chooses to throw a tantrum, act selfishly, complain needlessly, etc and I am still responsible for caring for them, then I get to walk through an incredible learning opportunity with them. As a parent, I can set up safe consequences. If they do not have an opportunity to learn with me as their teacher, then they will still be acting that way as an adult. The consequence will be much greater when they are a teenager or adult making negative or sinful choices then when they are a child.

4) The Bible doesn’t describe discipline as a negative thing, but something that a loving parent does to a child. When I am disciplining Niko and Mya, they often ask, “Do you love me?” I explain to them that it would mean I did not love them if I let them do whatever they wanted…because those actions would lead to a very bad, unhappy life. I tell them it is because I love them, that I need to teach them how to live and act.

Psalms 94:12 “Blessed is the man whom you discipline, O Lord, and whom you teach out of your law…”

Proverbs 29: 17 “Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart.”

5) I am able to touch their hearts. Parenting provides many, many opportunities for behavior modification, but this is not discipline. Changing my child’s behavior only gives the parent temporary relief from the child’s embarrassing behavior; however, it does nothing to impact the child’s belief systems about how they should relate to this world. Of course, there are times when I have no choice but to ensure that my child is practicing instant obedience and I need to make sure I get the correct “behavioral” response (For example: when I yell “stop” as she is about to dart into traffic), but the best part of parenting is being able to then instruct their hearts—to explain the “whys” and “how comes” and to paint a picture that looks different then the way they are currently viewing it.

So when you’re child is throwing a full on screaming, yelling, meltdown in the grocery store isle…I won’t think less of you (as long as you actually take the time to discipline your child, instead of trying to plead with them to behave or erupt violently because they are “embarrassing” you).

Frustrating

Chris Brown just got an hour in the spot light for beating up his girlfriend.

Can you please explain to me how it is the year 2009 and a guy can get on national television and talk about beating his girlfriend as a “mistake?” A “mistake” is when I’m clumsy and drop a big can of soup on someone’s foot…leaving “visible marks” on your girlfriend is abuse and assault. How does someone get convicted of assault and only get 5 years probation?

The worst part is this guy gets in front of a camera and acts sorry and remorseful and people will still buy his next album. Somehow, our culture buys it. A guy can tell some sob story and we think it was just an “accident.” The men I know who aren’t abusive would never make a “mistake” like that. And if he really were sorry, he’d begin to admit that he is an abuser and is in desperate need of help.

Why Vermon and I Chose to Home School (this year)

I thought it might be a good idea to post why Vermon and I decided to home school Niko this year. Home schooling seems like such a controversial thing, especially within the church community. There are families who think it is the only way to go, families who think home schooling is a poor decision, and plenty who have never really thought about it. The last thing Vermon and I want is to be ammo for either side of the debate, but simply share why we made our choice. As children and families begin to become school age at Roosevelt, we know there will be great diversity in the types of education families choose--we just pray that we can all support and encourage each other to raise our children "in the love and instruction of the Lord."

Reasons Why We’re Home Schooling:

1 At this point, it seems to be our only option that wouldn’t cause us to compromise other values. I want Niko to get the best education possible. Education is extremely important to Vermon and me and we want our kids to be ready to go to college when they graduate. The public/charter schools closest to our home had low test scores and were barely average and this wasn’t acceptable to Vermon and me. We found a few schools that seemed to be good in other districts, but we would have had to drive Niko 20 minutes away and it concerned us that this would limit our ability to get to know the families in our neighborhood. Many of those schools were also very lacking in minorities, which was also not something we wanted to compromise on.
We found a great school downtown that we could easily see sending our
children to; however, it starts in 3rd grade. So we may end up only home schooling for one year.

2)We want Niko to love learning. I am excited to be able to use the school day to creatively teach Niko how to love learning and discovering new things. My goal this year is to help him be an avid reader and greatly curious about the world he lives in. I think the time I will have with him all day will give me endless opportunities to make learning fun.

3)I want him to learn more then just what happened in western civilization. Schools seem to greatly lack multicultural education. Some curriculum and some teachers are better about this then others; however, we still have a long way to go. I am really looking forward to teaching Niko about the eastern world along with what was happening in Europe around the same time period.

4)To lay a foundation for discipleship and growth. I want to be 100% clear that I believe this is every parents calling, regardless of whether one chooses to home school or not. If I send Niko to a school next year, I will be just as responsible for his discipleship as I am this year. I am excited about the extra time I will have to teach him the word, learn about world missions, memorize scripture, etc, but even if he was in school all day—we would find time for this, even if it means giving up some extra curricular things he did.

5) I don’t expect my 7 year old to share Jesus with his 2nd grade friends. I don’t agree with the argument that children should be in public schools so their life can be a witness to others. They are 7…they are baby, baby Christians, if they have even made a decision to follow Christ at all. Just because they are being raised by a Christian family, doesn’t mean they have made a decision to be Christians and it certainly doesn’t mean they are mature enough to influence those around them. I think that argument is the “throw your kid into a lion’s den” argument. That being said, we do teach and talk with Niko often about being a light to others and boldly sharing his faith with others. I also don’t think public schools are necessarily the “lion’s den” either, but just think this is a weak argument for those against home schooling.

Not the Reasons Why We’re Home Schooling:


1)To keep Niko in a Christian bubble. As stated above, I am not going to send my seven year old into the lion’s den; however, I also do not think it is healthy to try to ensure Niko is surrounded by Christians. Thankfully, Niko has a wonderful Christian community at Roosevelt and I am happy to have him spend endless amounts of time with my brothers and sisters who I pray influence and encourage Niko’s faith, but there are plenty of Christians to give Niko a healthy understanding of what life looks like following Christ. I don’t want every activity Niko is a part of to be filled with other Christian families…so outside of my family and my Roosevelt fam, I’m not joining any Christian home school clubs, Christian basketball clubs, etc. We’ll be hanging at the Y, chillin with our neighbors, playing at Grant Park, and maybe join the boy scouts. That opens the door for Niko to see us living and loving the world around us and for Niko to learn how to be light by being a part of constant outreach.

2)To keep Niko from learning about evolution and to ensure he knows we’re a Christian nation. We aren’t really worried about Niko learning about evolution or other things in school that we may disagree with. I strongly believe it is important to be very involved in your child’s education, so whatever he learns—I will be deeply involved in making sure he learns correctly. As for making sure he knows Christopher Columbus was a Christian—well, can’t say I am too proud of that fact since he slaughtered the Natives.

3)Because it’s the only and best way to raise our children. I just don’t believe this to be true. There are examples all around me of those who have home schooled and sent their kids to school. Both categories are filled with children and families I’d be happy to model myself after and families I’d be terrified to be like. Again, this isn’t a right or wrong, black or white, brainless decision.

4)Because whoever they spend their most time with, they will follow. I don’t think that if my child is in school all day that a teacher is going to shape them more then Vermon and I will shape them. Based on my experience as a child and Vermon’s experience—our values and beliefs were shaped by our family that raised us and our church family, not our teachers or our private/public school.

5) Because public schools are incapable of educating our son and will brain wash him. I just know too many kids in school and teachers who pour themselves into their classrooms to believe that Niko is going to fail miserably in life if we send him to school. Kids really do learn how to read in school and graduate and go to college—sometimes we demonize schools so much we forget that they can get a good education, with the right supplementation and support at home.

6)Because I want to be a stay-at-home mom. I do not believe home schooling is for every parent (or every child). We choose to home school this year because it fits into our family’s ministry. Now, for some families, home schooling is their ministry—praise God for the gifts and passions he has given them, but this isn’t the case for our family (at this point). I love being a social worker, being involved in ministry at Roosevelt, and being a foster parent. Some things I am willing to give up, but some I have strong convictions that I am supposed to be a part of. Because of those convictions, if home schooling makes it too difficult to foster parent, then to school Niko goes. It isn’t that I’m not willing to make sacrifices (otherwise I wouldn’t be home schooling now), but because I feel God has called the entire Pierre family to some specific things above and before home schooling (every families calling is different).

The Joy of the Lord

I received some feedback and questions after my last post related to what happens when we read God's word/ pray out of obligation instead of relationship.

Reading God's word and spending time in prayer is meant to be a joy and a blessing! Not something we "have" to do, but something we delight in doing. For example, I delight in spending a night out with Vermon, discussing our passions and dreams--sure I "have" to do it to keep our marriage healthy, but it never feels as though I "have" to because I so deeply love him and receive so much joy from those times we have together. How much more with my Eternal Groom! I could approach it as something I “have” to do and then wallow in shame and guilt when I don’t, but if that is the approach we are taking to our relationship with the Lord…then there are some deeper things to fix. (Just like if spending time with Vermon ever becomes something I “have” to do, right along side paying bills and grocery shopping—Houston, we have a problem)

That being said, it is a problem that really does happen (both in relationship with humans and our Lord)—I’m not comparing a desire for my spouse with a desire for the Lord to make anyone feel guilty if they lack that desire or do not receive joy and fulfillment from their time with the Lord. I just want to paint a picture of how devastated a marriage would be if it were at that point and encourage you to view your spiritual state in the same way. When cultivating intimacy with the Lord becomes a chore (and there are times it will!), then we are in desperate need of spiritual repair. It isn’t something we can passively sit by and just “wait on the Lord” to return some desire to our hearts…we are bleeding out in the emergency room and are going to die without some immediate intervention.

So what happens when we don’t delight and find joy in the Lord…what happens when we wake up and realize that are relationship is in a devastated state?

1) Don’t let guilt and shame keep you from looking at the issue. Shame tells us to continue to keep our heads down looking at ourselves, wallowing in the pitiful excuse we are for Christians. The Gospel tells us to stop looking at ourselves and start looking to Christ. If you are crippled by guilt and shame then study grace and what that means. Shame does not and will not lead to holiness —God’s grace is that he took our shame and guilt upon himself and transformed it—that is what will lead us to holiness.
“For by grace you have been saved, through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Eph 2: 8-10

2) Repent of religion and irreligion. (I’m stealing this from Tim Keller…which he took from the Bible, so I guess it isn’t stealing ) Repent of your desire to be perfect and righteous for your own good, of your spiritual pride, of your idolization of religion, and of your desire to appear like a super star Christian. Repent also of the ways you have ignored God and made idols of worldly things in your life.

3) Remove all excuses from your vocabulary (see previous post), lean on your church community, carve out time daily…even if all you do during that time is pray for a desire to desire God. Know that the time you spend with the Lord is for His glory (not just for your own warm and fuzzies) and ask the Lord to help you delight in him. Read the Psalms, meditate on them, write them out, sing them...read Hosea and the other prophets and ask God to continue to reveal sin and grace. Faithfully pursue God and trust his promise to fill you with a deep joy as you delight in Him.

Romans 6:
“We know that our old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin. For one who has died has been set free from sin. Now if we have died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. We know that Christ, being raised from the dead, will never die again; death no longer has dominion over him. For the death he died he died to sin, once for all, but the life he lives he lives to God. So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions. Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness. For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace”

A Mother's Search for Time in the Word

I often hear from moms that it is so challenging to find time in the word and prayer. I also hear that from college students, singles early in their careers and professional development, newly weds, and middle-aged empty nesters. I know at every stage of my life, finding time in the word has been challenging and I know women at every stage of life who find the time and their speech, actions, and love are evident of women who are soaked in the Word of God.

I do have very, very fond memories of my single days and being able to spend hours, even an entire day studying God’s word. I definitely had more time at different seasons of my life, but even when I had the most time—I had seasons where I neglected time in prayer and time in the word. Time is something we all lack and distraction and noise constantly fight for our attention and affections. No matter how much “free time” one has, it is painfully easy to give in to your flesh and fill it with meaningless, flesh-gratifying things. It is even easy to fill that time with good things, but not the most important things.

Over the years of preparing to be a mother, I have heard very poor advice regarding early motherhood and being in the word. I have heard many people say things such as,

“it is important, but don’t feel guilty, it is a season of life. There will be a time again to spend more time in the word.”

“It is so hard, but there are practical things you can do…like write a verse on an index card and read that all week, over and over…at least that is something”

“God has called you to focus on your family and care for their needs right now…it is a season of life.”

My problem with all of that advice is it simply is not biblical. There are things about being a mother of young children that have their unique challenges in regards to time and energy, but the purpose of this season of your life is to bring glory to your God. Mother, professional, single, teenager, college student—you are a warrior in God’s army! And being a mother now increases the amount of people you are directly responsible for praying over and training up to be good soldiers. If anything, motherhood should drive us into the word and prayer more, not less.

If my kids grow up to tell stories about my dishes not always being done, or times that we all had to spend all day at a laundry mat because the laundry piled up, but they can remember me in the word, speaking the word, walking in the spirit, and on my knees—praise God! If my children grow up, remembering that we had to always cook frozen pizza or order Chinese food when company came over, because mom ran out of time to go grocery shopping or make an elaborate meal…but they remember being with me when I was praying with my sisters, deeply interceding before the Lord—Glory be to God! There are many practical, every day life skills that I need to teach my children, but their priority pales in comparison to making sure their mother is soaked in God’s word and deeply seeking the Lord in prayer.

Mothers are called to do far, far more then read one verse on an index card all week or to just chalk this to a “season of life.” Our first and foremost identity is that we are children of the Almighty God, we are daughters of our King, we are sisters of Jesus Christ! The more time we spend deep in the word, digging into theology, and praying to our father, the deeper Love we will have for our God. Deeper love for our God will directly lead to a deeper love for others, your family will benefit greatly from that increase in love.

It is only when our first love is the Lord and our priorities reflect it, that we can raise children in the love and instruction of the Lord.

But saying this and reading this is so much easier in principle then it is in practice. I fail often at making this my priority and I fear my children growing up with a mother that does not keep her eyes Jesus daily. It scares me to think of how often I parent out of my own wisdom and do not depend on the Lord for his wisdom, sustenance, and guidance.

These are just ideas of things that I have tried. I don’t do all of them every day or week, but daily I try to do something.


1) Use your Husband. If you have a husband, especially one that loves Jesus…one of his deepest desires for you and your marriage should be that you are growing in your relationship with the Lord. Be honest with him about what you need to prioritize this in your life.

a. Let him get the kids breakfast a few mornings a week while you read your bible or let him play with them after dinner or take them to the park so you have some time to read the word (not clean, do laundry, etc)

b. Plan Daddy Date Nights. Let your husband have one night a week (or month) that he comes home from work, cooks dinner (or reheats something if cooking it is too big of a stretch for him!), feeds the kids, has special daddy time, and puts them to bed. You can grab your Bible, a sandwich, a journal, some commentaries, and head to a local coffee shop for 3 or 4 hours of study. Not only is this great for your kids to have that time with their dad, but you need that time in the word! You can return the favor to your husband by encouraging him to escape from the house early on a Saturday morning or come home late one night from work…giving him several hours in the word.

c. After the kids go to bed, pray together, read from God’s word together (you can even do this while the other folds laundry), even if it is just the first 20 minutes after your kids fall asleep—get in the discipline of incorporating God’s word and prayer as a steady diet in your marriage. Ask your husband what he is reading in God’s word and what he is learning and then tell him what you are learning (even if he doesn’t ask). Use each other to hold one another accountable.

2) Go to McDonalds. Not that I am a big fan of their nutritious meals, but once a week…I bring Niko and Mya to McDonalds after lunch (or school) for an ice cream cone and let them play for an hour. That gives me a good hour to read. This isn’t good for uninterrupted, focused study…but it is a great time for reading more about a specific doctrine or theology. I have also found it to be a good time to work on scripture memory.

3) Quiet times. Niko is 7 and still has a “nap” time. I try at least 3 days a week to use that time to read and pray. This is prime time for "mom chores", so you really have to discipline yourself to use this time for prayer and study and fight the temptation to get things done on your "to-do" list. Just remember that time in the word is a priority to a clean house, laundry, and dinner...plus, if you are anything like me—it is much easier for you to talk yourself into neglecting some sleep to do some chores then it will be to stay up to read the word (our flesh is so weak!).

4) Use your church family. If it has been weeks since you have been in the word—you are in crisis and who most wants to support you then your sisters! Call some other moms in the church (call me!) and schedule a “play date.” One mom can play with all the kids (or take them to the park) while the other mom goes into a room and reads/prays for an hour…then you can switch. Ask your home group for help. Schedule times to pray with other women in the church. If you’re a single mom or have a husband who is not a believer…do all of the things I suggested for “Using your Husband” with church family. Let us be a church to you. Let us be the Body to you. Confess any pride that holds you back from asking your sisters for help!

5) Full time work and full time mothering is exhausting, even if you feel called to what you do and love your job. I found it difficult to find time to take a shower, never mind time to read the Bible and pray. If you have a commute, use your drive to pray...have an index with an outline of things to pray for and pray out loud your entire drive. Skip the time it takes to stop at Starbucks, get to work 30 minutes early and read in your car. Read during your lunch break. Honestly, none of that really worked for me (but I know others who do it)--I just had to sacrifice sleep and try to carve out extra time on the weekends for solitude.

6) Include your kids. My favorite thing to do after breakfast is go back in bed and read my Bible and pray. I tell Niko and Mya that this is very special time with God and it is important for every Christian to have time in the word. I invite Niko and Mya to lay in bed with me, but only as long as they want to sit and read with me. I set my alarm for an hour and tell them they can interrupt me when the hour is up. Niko and Mya get their bibles and both spend 10-20 minutes reading their bibles quietly (or looking at the pictures)…and then they quietly go off to their room to play together or by themselves. When the hour is up, they excitingly bounce into my room with a long list of what they want to play with me. (I also read a book by Noel Piper where she suggested getting the Bible on tape for your pre-readers to listen to…I want to try this for Mya)

Anyone else have things that have worked for them? Please share!

my favorite new name

I have been a mom for a little over three months and it has been such a life changing experience. I was reflecting today on what the Lord has done in the lives of our children since we first met them and I couldn't help but praise God for how powerfully he has revealed his love to me though my little girl and little boy.

Anyone who has met Mya, our four year old, becomes instantly aware that she has a strong and wonderful personality. She loves being the center of attention, loves making people laugh, and loves saying things that you would hear out of the mouth of a teenager.

After living with us every weekend for three months, Mya and Niko moved in full time at the beginning of April. We told them when we first began taking care of them on the weekends, that we were going to become their new mommy and daddy, but we never told them what to call us. Since we had such a long/strange "in-transition" stage where we weren't their parents, but were trying to be...we figured they were confused and when the dust settled, would instinctively know what to call us.

Niko and Mya instantly called Vermon "daddy." It was so precious to hear and I loved seeing Vermon's big smile every time they heard it...it didn't go so quickly with me. I figured, with their history, it would take longer to start calling me "mom," but knew it would happen. Even though I was slightly jealous of Vermon, I figured, even mother of infants don't get to hear themselves called mom for almost a year--and even then, for some reason, "da da" is among babies first words.

The journey of becoming "Mommy" went something like this...

Mya would be having a tantrum and I would be disciplining her, explaining her sin and hard heart and her need for Jesus. "You'll NNNNNEEEEEEVVVVVEEEERRR be my mommy!" She would scream at the top of her lungs.

Later in the day, Vermon would home, "Daddy!" and then she'd look over at me and stick her hand on her hip and say, "he's my daddy! You're not my mommy!"

Other times we would be playing dolls or with stuffed animals and she would "make-believe" I was her mommy...and giggle or laugh every time she called me it, but made sure to tell me it was just a game. She wanted to test it out, but wasn't ready to commit.

"Dennae" she would say, "yes, daughter" "You can be my mommy yesterday (she mixes up yesterday and tomorrow)" I would gently explain that I already am her mommy, just like God wants to be our father, whether we realize it or not.

Our entire first month and a half was like this. I knew Mya desperately wanted a mommy, she longed to call me mommy and longed to belong to me. She would desperately want me to hold her, but would resist asking me with every bone in her body. I could see the turmoil within her.

Then, on Mother's Day, Mya started calling me "Mommy" and instantly began acting like I was her mommy. The transformation in her heart was beautiful. Vermon and I often say, that she has become more beautiful in the last few months...as she realizes this is forever, as she realizes she belongs to someone, as she learns her new identity as a "Pierre", she smiles more and more.

Now...only two months later, I can't even go into the bathroom without Mya wanting to follow me in. Several times a day, Mya runs up to me, kisses me, and says, "You're the best Mommy in the WHOLE world." When she's in time out, now she argues, "But Mommy, I need you to be with me. But Mommy, I won't be able to see you!"

I love hearing Niko and Mya call me "mommy". I can't hear it enough. I never thought I would like the sound so much. It has been such a lesson in how I pray to the Lord. How overjoyed God must be to hear his little children call him "Abba (daddy)" Father.

more pics from la jolla

pictures from our la jolla trip

Praising God...

There have been countless moments of joy over the last two months as I have become a mother. Getting to know Niko and Mya have been life changing and it has been such a sweet time in Vermon and my lives.

We just got back from La Jolla in which we were able to spend a wonderful week on the beach with the kids (ah..gone are the days of reading 5 or 6 books on our weekend getaways :)).

This is a picture of Mya on the beach. There was a good half hour where Mya just sang at the top of her lungs praise songs to God, "God, you're the lover of my soul" or "God, you're so nice! God you made us! God we neeeeeeeeeed you." It didn't matter who walked by...Mya just sang as loud as she could. Sometimes it was while making sand castles, sometimes with her hands in the air just gazing out into the ocean.

Childlike faith. I wonder at what age she will become too self conscious to do that. What age did I become too self aware of others to determine when and where I praised the Lord so publicly? How glorious heaven will be when all of creation screams to the Lord in worship with no fear of man!

"At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven? And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven." Matthew 5: 1-4

Family Like No Other Family

It has been almost a month since Niko and Mya have moved in with us full time. It has been such a wonderful, blessed time. I knew that fostering/adopting would be full of joy, but I had no idea just how much fun it would be and just how much the Lord would grow my heart to love overnight.

Since January when we started down this road of becoming parents, it has been filled with one blessing after another. The greatest blessing from God has been our church family and I just want to brag a little bit about them...

In order to have Niko and Mya live with us, we needed a 3 bedroom home. We had put an offer on a home/gone under contract with a bank the same week that we decided to move forward with having Niko and Mya move in with us. We were supposed to close at the end of February and have the kids move in sometime in March, but needless to say, nothing ever goes as planned.

Buying a foreclosed home turned out to be a nightmare. As of March, we found out it could be June until we moved into this home. By this point, Niko and Mya had been spending every weekend with us and we were already committed to being their "mommy and daddy." It was such a trial and so frustrating to try to figure out why this was happening and how we could get them to live with us as quick as possible.

As we asked those around us to pray, a couple in our church offered to switch houses with us. They had a 3 bedroom home just down the street. Within two weeks of joking about it, we were packed and ready to move. These were brothers and sisters in Christ we had just met and here they were just giving us their home. They packed up everything they owned in two weeks and swapped houses.

We moved four days before we had the kids move in with us full time. So many people showed up from church to help us move that both of our homes were completely moved in under two hours. After that, about ten women stayed and helped me unpack and put everything in the entire house away. By the time the weekend was over, we were moved in and ready for the licensing company to inspect our new home Monday morning.

It was a whirlwind and one of the most amazing things I have been a part of. To be on the receiving end of such a beautiful example of Christ-centered community moved me beyond words. I was able to go to work and tell all my co-workers about this great act of love.

Another sister from church gave me her car for nine months. Vermon and I had been happily sharing one car, but she was given a company car to drive back and forth to work in and wasn't using hers during the week. Instead of just letting it sit in her garage all week like most people would have (probably even me before all this), she gave it to me to use (and she kept paying her own insurance).

Other church family have instantly adopted Niko and Mya into their own families...seeing no distinction between their "biological" nieces and nephews and Niko and Mya. Others showed up our first three weeks to give us meals. Someone else arranged for firefighters to drop off bikes at our house for the kids. Others helped so much this first month as I have tried to finish out my work commitment/ late schedule with watching Niko and Mya, housekeeping, helping Vermon with some of his church commitments, and the list could go on and on…almost all of this happened without Vermon or I asking or suggesting this.

It has been a great illustration in our children’s lives as we talk with them about how nothing we have belongs to us, but it all belongs to God. We then talk about the many, many friends we have who have shown this to us. We talk about what it means to live life as though we had nothing, yet we have been richly blessed with everything. We tell them that we have more riches then we could ever hope for or imagine and all of this belongs to God and his purposes.

Recently, we were at the park and a homeless man approached us for money, I offered him one of our sandwiches instead and after he left Niko eagerly said, “but mommy…our money belongs to God, not you…shouldn’t you give him some, like Faith and Ryan gave us their house?”

Jesus Loves Me - by the new Pierre kids!

Something to pray about...

Vermon and I have had a whirlwind of the last 3 weeks! We have been presented with the wonderful opportunity to become foster parents to a beautiful 4 year old girl and her wonderful 7 year old brother. The timing is about 7 months ahead of schedule for when we were planning on having kids and it isn't at all perfect with our lives and my career, but after meeting these wonderful children and seeing months continuing to pass with no option for them, Vermon and I felt we needed to strongly consider and pray about it...

There were a lot of factors that needed to fall into place before we could say yes. We needed a 3 bedroom house to pass state licensure standards, I needed to be able to come home from work earlier then 9pm, and Vermon needed a little creativity/flexibility with his schedule until I finish out some commitments I have at Sojourner. We started praying and both felt that these two precious children were clearly put in our path for a reason and we need to do whatever we can to ensure they have a Christ-centered, loving, safe, and nurturing home that they could go to together.

Please pray for us! Working as much as I do and getting ready to parent kids with deep needs is a little overwhelming right now, but I know God will give us the energy and strength. The kids have begun spending every weekend with us and will do that through March. In March we should close on our house and finish the licensing and then they will be with us permanently.

So...in the next 30 days we will be moving into a 3 bedroom just down the street, buying dozens of children's books, making many trips to the park, vastly shifting our priorities, reading parenting books, and adding two special additions to our family!

What a privilege God has given us!

(Once it is official I will post pictures and more details to the story (which is so obviously the Lord's doing!))

My People Group

"A Christian is immortal until his work is done."
-James Fraser

I just finished reading a biography about James Fraser, a missionary to China in the early 1900's. I was very encouraged and challenged to read story after story about this man's passion for these remote tribes of people. He would spend hours and days praying and fasting for God to move among the Lisu and spent five years there before he saw any fruit of his work and prayer.

I have always been captivated by stories of missionaries who have devoted their life to a people group in India, Africa, Latin America, etc. There are stories told about people who spend hours and days in prayer, asking God to move greatly among these people they have been "called" to...only to see God move in powerful ways. I have read about entire tribes of people that decided to follow Christ who then ended their practices of child sacrifice, female circumcision, or infanticide. It is always compelling to me to hear of how God works greatly through men and women who have given all of their energy, time, and life fully to be used to worship and serve God.

As I read about James Fraser's life, I was especially convicted this time about the way I see who I have been "called" to. I often think, prayer and total dependence on the Lord, is the only way many of these men and women have been able to stay in some of these countries that they have been in to minister. But why is my life any different? Why do I not think of the people of Phoenix as being my people group that I am called to? America is no different then these remote tribes all over the world...they need a powerful encounter with Christ. Just like child sacrifice and female circumcision can end overnight when a "people" trust Jesus to be their savior...so can child abuse, neglect, domestic violence, substance use, social injustice, etc...when God really moves on a "people."

Prior to reading this book, I do not think I have ever thought of praying for God to move greatly in this city that I am living in. I have never asked God to redeem downtown Phoenix and make it whole and a beautiful reflection of who he is. I have passionately prayed for individual people, I have felt "called" to the women and children I work with, but I have never invested myself so fully as to see that I was placed in Phoenix by the Lord specifically to advance his kingdom and bring glory to his name in this city, among these people.

If only we could stop distinguishing between those "missionaries" all over the world and ourselves.